The flu isn't just a stronger version of the common cold. It's a serious illness that can often lead to a hospital stay and can even be fatal. Lasting about a week, those who suffer from the flu have a wide-range of symptoms including cough, headache, runny nose, fever and exhaustion. Complications include ear, sinus and staph infections and pneumonia. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, those children who suffer from chronic conditions like asthma and diabetes are five times more likely to be hospitalized than their healthier counterparts. Flu season typically starts in December and peaks in February although every strain of the virus and season varies.
If you dread the idea of taking your child to the doctor's office to get a flu shot and the tears, kicking and screaming that goes along with it, think about the alternative: taking care of a very sick child or worse, spending time at their bedside at the hospital.
There are a few ways to deal with the anxiety your child may be feeling before bringing them in for a shot. Which option you choose really depends on the temperament of your child.
- Ambush -- Don't tell your child that where you are going and what's going to happen until you get there, holding back until right before the doctor or nurse gets ready to give the immunization. Although it seems harsh, it eliminates a lot of the feelings of nervousness that may accompany the news that they need to get an shot. If your child is a worrier, this may be the route to go. Why have them thinking about the doctor visit for a few days or hours in advance, when the reality is, they'll only be in pain for about five seconds (if at all)?
The downside with this method is that your child may start to fret every time they go to the doctor, for fear that they will need to get another shot. You'll have to make it perfectly clear that a shot isn't something that happens every time.
- Educate -- The day of the shot or a few hours before, explain to your child exactly where they are going and why. Talk about how sometimes during the winter months people can get very sick but that doctors and scientists have come up with a way to help everyone stay well. If they get a quick shot, they may still get sick, but not as sick as they could. Be careful not to go into too many details however. You don't want to scare your child either. Keep it simple and to the point and answer any questions your child might have.
Explain to your child that it is OK to be nervous and maybe share your own shot experiences. Talk about how you too were nervous but after a few minutes you couldn't feel any pain at all anymore.
If you think it will help, try practicing ahead of time, either on your child, yourself or on a doll. Practice rolling up sleeves, rubbing with a cotton ball, etc.
- Skip the Shot Altogether -- Depending on your pediatrician, your insurance company and your child's overall health, your child may be eligible to receive FluMist, a nasal-spray vaccine that has been approved for use in kids ages 2 and up. Children who suffer from asthma or frequent wheezing problems are not permitted to use the spray because it can agitate symptoms. Not all insurance companies cover the spray however, so you'll need to look into it.
Shot-time Game Plan
If you do opt to get your child a shot, there are a few strategies you can employ to distract them from what the doctor or nurse is doing:
- If they are old enough to read, have them read aloud to you.
- Sing a favorite song together.
- Play a game of "I Spy" (just make sure your child doesn't look where the shot is being given).
- Talk to your child, distracting them from what is going on.
- Bring a small, handheld video game that your child can play
- Blowing bubbles or a pinwheel -- make sure this is OK with your doctor first.
- Hold and comfort your child before, during and after the shot.
- Come prepared with fun bandages that your child has picked out ahead of time. After the shot, put the bandage right on.
- If your child will be getting FluMist vaccine and you aren't certain how she'll react to the spray, practice ahead of time with saline nasal spray.
If your child really turns up the drama, it may be very frustrating and embarrassing for you, but there are some things you need to avoid. Don't expect your child to behave logically. They are scared and uncertain and need you to be calm. Don't threaten to spank or call her a baby if she cries. And when the shot is over don't say, "See, that wasn't so bad," as it can minimize your child's very real feelings. Remember, your child isn't the first and won't be the last who has a hard time getting a shot.
When it's all over, hold your child and comfort her if she needs it. This might be a good time to go out for ice cream.